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On this page, you will be able to read the stories of parents, children and donors who discuss why they joined Seed Siblings and what their thoughts are about registers for matching purposes.
My roots, my family, have always been important to me, paternal and maternal grandparents and cousins. That’s why it was more or less obvious that I would join Seed Siblings (I never thought about it very much) when I had a child who, in a manner of speaking, would miss out on half of his family. He will never have a grandmother or grandfather or any cousins on that side of the family. But at least he’ll have a half-sister!
We were matched when both children were around a year old and have known about each other for about 6 months. My first though was ”Help! What do I do now? What is she thinking? What does she want to know? Does she want to meet right a way?” Then I decided to be cautious and let my match initiate contact. Luckily, she wasn’t as much of a coward as I was. And she asked the same questions I had! ”What do we do now?” That question we later addressed together, one step at a time.
Obviously, we mostly talk about the children, and compare them, how could we not? Sometimes we speak several times a week, sometimes every couple of months. Right now, if feels like we’ve have found a nice balance. We will definitely meet in the future, but sadly we live quite far apart and the children are still small.
The most important thing right now is the knowledge that my son has a half-sister, we will stay in touch and we will meet in the future. And as my son and his half-sister grow up, it will be up to them if they want to continue to see each other and stay in touch. That is probably my only worry. What happens if one of them wants a relationship and the other one doesn’t? But I think that if that’s the case, then I will adress the issue then, instead of worrying about it now. And I want my son growing up with the knowledge that he has a family on his ”dad’s side” too.
That is the most important thing to me.